I’m largely going to leave this post to Kierkegaard’s own words from his famous “The King & the Maiden” parable from his book, Philosophical Fragments. I do want to offer a few cursory thoughts as to why this parable is significant for us this Christmas season.
Invoking “The King & the Maiden” is not new at Christmas. It’s a wonderful parable about the magical and paradoxical event of the Incarnation. It shows what God had to do to meet us – become a lowly one of us. To God, we were the “Other” needing relationship. The method of entering into this relationship was leaving a magical and glorious throne and becoming limited, for the Infinite became finite.
Yet this Christmas, we live in a world of increased hostility, evil, and suffering. Add to this that every individual, myself surely included, seems guilty of stomping their foot on what they believe to be true in hostile situations. The obsession with being right is so acute that we lose sight of the real task in front of us: Go, and do what The Christ did. The Christ was humble, took on the role of the servant to meet the needs of the people. We ought to be doing likewise.
In “debates” about refugees, the poor, the sick, the lonely, the despairing, the immigrant, the Muslim, the gay person, we have missed the point of the King in Kierkegaard’s parable. We haven’t left the throne to love. We are sitting on our self-exalted throne demanding to be loved and respected. In that act, neither can occur.
Here’s Kierekegaard’s The King & the Maiden:
Imagine there was a King who loved a humble maiden. She had no royal pedigree, no education, no standing in the royal court. She dressed in rags. She lived in a hovel; she lived the ragged life of a peasant. But for reasons no one could quite figure out, the King fell in love with this girl in the way the kings sometimes do. Why he should love her was beyond explaining, but love her he did, and he could not stop loving her.
One day there awoke in the heart of the King an anxious thought: “How in the world is he going to reveal his love to this girl? How could he bridge the chasm that separated the two of them?” His advisers, of course, told him that all he had to do was command her to become his queen, and it would be done. For he was a man of immense power, every statesman feared his wrath, every foreign power trembled before him, and every courtier groveled in the dust at the King’s voice.
This poor peasant girl would have no power to resist; she would have to become the queen!
But power, even unlimited power, cannot command love. The King could force her body to be present in the palace, but he could not force love to be present in her heart. He might be able to gain her obedience this way but coerced submission is not what he wanted. He longed for intimacy of heart and oneness of spirit, and all the power in the world cannot unlock the human heart—it must be opened from within.
So he met with his advisers once again and they suggested he try to bridge the chasm by elevating her to his position. He could shower her with gifts, dress her in purple and silk, and have her crowned the queen. But if he brought her to his palace, if he radiated the sun of his magnificence over her, if she saw all the wealth, pomp, and power of his greatness, then she would be overwhelmed. How would he ever know if she loved him for himself, or for all that he had given her? And how could she know that he loved her, and would love her still if she had remained only a humble peasant? Would she be able to summon confidence enough never to remember what the king only wished to forget—that he was the king and she had been a humble maiden?
Every alternative he came up with came to nothing. There was only one way. So one day the king arose, took off his crown, relinquished his scepter, laid aside his royal robes, and he took upon himself the life of a peasant. He dressed in rags, scratched out a living in the dirt, groveled for food, and dwelt in hovel.
He did not just take on the outward appearance of a servant, he became a servant–it was his actual life, his actual nature, his actual burden. He became as ragged as the one he loved so that she could be his forever. It was the only way. His raggedness became the very signature of his presence.